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Post by cesca on Oct 25, 2007 16:14:25 GMT
Hey guys, sorry to bring you down, but I just wanted to share some sad news with you. My grandad died last night after being riddled with cancer for only 6 months. Bless him, he finally gave up the fight. I went to see him yesterday, and I am so glad I did as I had the chance to say goodbye when he was in high spirits and Molly gave away plenty of smiles and was on top form for him. Although he was 82, I honestly thought we would have him for a lot longer, and it has hit us all hard. But, at least he is not in pain anymore, and he is now reunited with my nanna after 10 years. (I will put money on the fact that he will be getting the biggest rollocking in his life!!!)
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Post by womaninchains on Oct 25, 2007 17:23:23 GMT
aww Cesca, sorry to hear that, you and your family are in my prayers
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Post by ellen on Oct 25, 2007 18:54:03 GMT
Come here you Bless your grandad for fighting that nasty disease for so long! My thoughts are with you and your family
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Post by pam on Oct 25, 2007 20:10:12 GMT
So sorry to hear your sad news Cesca. My mother suffered for a good year with cancer before she finally decided enough was enough and upped and left us. I also took great comfort in the fact that she was no longer in pain and I'm sure you will find great strength from this as time goes on. Dying is inevitable for all of us...pain and suffering is what makes it harder to endure. My thoughts are with you hun xx
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Post by ramkat on Oct 25, 2007 20:38:46 GMT
Bless you and your family, Ces. So glad you had a chance to see him just before the end and that he went with wonderful memories of you and Molly. Cancer is such an awful killer and whilst the upside is that he is no longer suffering, the downside is that he's not around any more. Remember the good times, my thoughts are with you.
Hugs Kathy
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Post by jimee on Oct 25, 2007 22:46:57 GMT
*hugs* My thoughts are with you and your family. It's an awful thing to go through. I'm so glad you had the chance to see him and say goodbye. Be strong xx
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Post by ruthi on Oct 26, 2007 3:10:37 GMT
Dear Cesca! I'm so sorry to hear that! My thoughts are also with you! But it's great that he saw you and precious Molly last time before passing!It's great also to you that you could see him before. I think i know what you feeel about losing a granddad-my granddad also died 6 years ago(he disappeared and froze in trhe middle of the cold february night (- 20C degrees)to death)! Be strong!!!
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Post by miss_ing on Oct 26, 2007 13:46:32 GMT
so sorry cesc . but that he lived and loved for 82 years in this crazy world is something now to be celebrated! thinking of you xox
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Post by cesca on Oct 27, 2007 13:33:10 GMT
Thanks guys, I am glad he is no longer in pain, and that the cancer never got the chance to turn him into something he wasnt. My mum was there when he went, and he died having a hug from my uncle which makes me happy. When they called the nurse into see him, my Grandad apparantly asked her 'Can I go now?', and his last words were 'Goodnight, God bless'. All exceptionally fitting I think. The only thing that keeps my chuckling is the thought of what my Nanna will do to him once she get's her hands on him, I can just see it now: 'come on Dave, everything is going to be ok...........*WHALLOP!*, THAT'S FOR BEING A BUGGER AFTER I WENT!!!'
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Post by ramkat on Oct 27, 2007 20:30:26 GMT
Don't we wish we could all die having our family around us. It's a funny thing about people dying, especially from a long illness or age. They seem to need permission to go. Virtually every one I know who has died in that situation has asked if they could go or waited until something important happened, like a birth, before they finally die. Don't you think that's so interesting, that the mind can still make decisions like that? Makes you feel really bad for people who have no one to love them at that time. Which brings me back to my opening comment. I'm so glad your Grandad had his family around him to give him such a fitting farewell:-)
Kathy
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Post by debbie on Oct 28, 2007 16:58:12 GMT
Cesca - I'm so sorry to hear about your grandad, your words and thoughts of him reuniting with your grandma brought a smile to my face. I know from personal experience that the last contact you have with a loved one is so important as that is usually the one you remember for a long time. I'm so pleased that you were able to share some good times with him before he passed but at the same time so sorry for you and your family's loss. Big hugs to you all. XXX
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Post by cesca on Oct 29, 2007 10:29:46 GMT
Kathy you are so right! I think we know when our time is coming to an end. The funeral is wednesday.
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Post by shaz on Oct 31, 2007 8:59:32 GMT
I'm a few days late, but I'm really sorry to hear that hun I hope the funeral goes to plan and everything...give him the send off he sounds like he deserves. Thinking of you, doll
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Post by cesca on Nov 2, 2007 11:22:21 GMT
The funeral went as nicely as a funeral can. My uncle said a few words about my grandad that had us all laughing. And I think although it's so sad that he has gone, I'm only being selfish wanting him to be here. As long as he is happy where is, then I'm happy too.
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Post by ramkat on Nov 2, 2007 19:58:58 GMT
The funeral went as nicely as a funeral can. My uncle said a few words about my grandad that had us all laughing. And I think although it's so sad that he has gone, I'm only being selfish wanting him to be here. As long as he is happy where is, then I'm happy too. I think it's fair enough to feel selfish and want him to still be around. That's very natural. I feel the same way about my Dad, who is very ill and in a Nursing Home. He has little life and memory but he still remembers me and is always thrilled to see me. He had a bad turn a few months ago and, whilst it would be a blessing for him to die, I was really upset and didn't want him to. We can tell ourselves that it's in their best interests but, I don't think it's bad to be honest about how you really feel. You love him so you go right ahead and miss him and want him to be around. I don't think that's selfish at all, I think it's beautiful and a testament to the wonderful man he was and the influence and impact he had on your life. Hugs Kathy
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