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Post by pam on Feb 6, 2007 7:37:45 GMT
Sounds to me like you're coping magnificently well under very sad circumstances Kelsy. If you can get through this without enlisting the help of a therapist then good for you. I think if you have a close friend or perhaps relative you can confide in and talk to about how you're feeling then that will be just as helpful as seeing a therapist and at least you can see them on your terms and not have to book an appointment Life is full of nasty knocks along the way but with the help and support of good friends I think you can deal with pretty much anything. Your forum friends are always here for you Kelsy.
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Post by cesca on Feb 6, 2007 12:26:53 GMT
Hey guys, it's day 3, but I haven't really been sad lately. I might go to a therapist, but I don't know if I need one yet, but if I do my parents will get me one. Maybe I'll talk to them about it. How do therapist help? I know you talk to them, but what kind of things do they tell you? Thank you everyone, for your support, it doesn't go unnoticed. A good therapist will never put words into your mouth, or ideas into your head. They mainly listen to what you say i.e how you feel, and put it to you in a way that you can make sense of why what you feel is making you sad/angry/whatever. They clarify things for you, and do make a lot of sense out of what you may think is rubbish. If you want to go talk to one then cool, but don't feel like you have to - it's all about your feelings and how you want to make sense of them right now, so don't pressure yourself into anything. Again there are people here for you if you just need to vent, or ask questions so feel free to.
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Post by sammie on Feb 6, 2007 13:03:48 GMT
if your going for a therapist/psychologist, make sure their specialized in that area! or even a councilor may help, id start of with reading a self help book see if that helps you, or either by going to a forum that is specialized in young people and divorce! ill have a look for you, sometimes they have councilors online at these forms to give advise and always their will be people in the same circumstance as you! it all depends on your thoughts at the end of the day, all a psychologist can do is re valuate you thoughts, give support, maybe refer you to a doctor if meds are needed for a short period, cbt is also useful it helps your thought process! etc group therapy is also good, if you can find it i just hope your therapists are better than the u.k Ive had awful ones! gotta go now!!! it seems you are doing well at the momment, and i praise you for that! it all depends on what you want though, you can try and deal with this in all sorts of ways. alot of people have gave some sound advise here.
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Post by shaz on Feb 6, 2007 15:31:23 GMT
I've been seeing a psychologist for over a year now, as I have a lot of problems with paranoia, anxiety and depression. I get frequent anxiety/panic attacks and am very restricted to my house. I won't give you all of the information on what occurred, but my problems are due to a teacher physically abusing me when I was about 11 years old, and I have never mentally recovered from this. That's what my shrinks are trying to help with. If you don't want to take the that road, why not try phoning someone like The Samaritans. They can lend an ear and give you some proper advice on what to do I'd recommend them for your situation. As for what therapists can do for you. Well, our situations are very different, but mine have worked through a range of therapies with me to help my problems. They talk things through with you and try to find solutions and how to conquer the problems. However, if you get stuck with someone you don't like, it can be very difficult. Talking to someone you barely know isn't everyone's idea of help.
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Post by cesca on Feb 6, 2007 19:37:53 GMT
I've been seeing a psychologist for over a year now, as I have a lot of problems with paranoia, anxiety and depression. I get frequent anxiety/panic attacks and am very restricted to my house. I won't give you all of the information on what occurred, but my problems are due to a teacher physically abusing me when I was about 11 years old, and I have never mentally recovered from this. That's what my shrinks are trying to help with. If you don't want to take the that road, why not try phoning someone like The Samaritans. They can lend an ear and give you some proper advice on what to do I'd recommend them for your situation. As for what therapists can do for you. Well, our situations are very different, but mine have worked through a range of therapies with me to help my problems. They talk things through with you and try to find solutions and how to conquer the problems. However, if you get stuck with someone you don't like, it can be very difficult. Talking to someone you barely know isn't everyone's idea of help. I can relate to you in more ways than you know chicky. And I know how hard it must have been for you to type the words you just did. Hang in there, for you will find a time when you feel ready to get better. Talking things through does help, but it will never take the memories away. xxxxx
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Post by debbie on Feb 7, 2007 11:49:39 GMT
Hey guys, it's day 3, but I haven't really been sad lately. I might go to a therapist, but I don't know if I need one yet, but if I do my parents will get me one. Maybe I'll talk to them about it. How do therapist help? I know you talk to them, but what kind of things do they tell you? Thank you everyone, for your support, it doesn't go unnoticed. Thanks kelsy for letting us know how you are doing at this sad time. I'm so glad you seem to be coping well, I'm sure it's a weight of your parents minds that you are being so strong, it probably means that they can sort out their problems without having to worry about causing more upset to the family. Karma to you Some great advice on here.
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Post by shaz on Feb 7, 2007 11:59:44 GMT
I've been seeing a psychologist for over a year now, as I have a lot of problems with paranoia, anxiety and depression. I get frequent anxiety/panic attacks and am very restricted to my house. I won't give you all of the information on what occurred, but my problems are due to a teacher physically abusing me when I was about 11 years old, and I have never mentally recovered from this. That's what my shrinks are trying to help with. If you don't want to take the that road, why not try phoning someone like The Samaritans. They can lend an ear and give you some proper advice on what to do I'd recommend them for your situation. As for what therapists can do for you. Well, our situations are very different, but mine have worked through a range of therapies with me to help my problems. They talk things through with you and try to find solutions and how to conquer the problems. However, if you get stuck with someone you don't like, it can be very difficult. Talking to someone you barely know isn't everyone's idea of help. I can relate to you in more ways than you know chicky. And I know how hard it must have been for you to type the words you just did. Hang in there, for you will find a time when you feel ready to get better. Talking things through does help, but it will never take the memories away. xxxxx Yeah, one thing I have discovered through it is that I'm not as alone as I thought. Not necessarily for the reasons that cause my problems, but more people suffer anxiety than I could ever have imagined. I just find myself feeling very alone and although that seems very selfish of me, I can't help it. Anyway, I just wanted to explain therapists and stuff to Kelsy really and that was the best example I could give I actually had a home visit from two shrinks yesterday to tell me they're giving me a new careworker to help me work through some stuff...not best impressed, but whatever
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Post by sammie on Feb 7, 2007 13:46:12 GMT
i suffer really bad anxiety as well! i was agrophobic for a number of years, so your not alone.
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Post by patb on Feb 7, 2007 15:09:00 GMT
Kelsey, I am so sorry to hear your news. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Pat
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Post by shaz on Feb 7, 2007 15:31:45 GMT
i suffer really bad anxiety as well! i was agrophobic for a number of years, so your not alone. ((())) It's a terrible problem to have...so restrictive
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Post by ruthi on Feb 7, 2007 17:10:17 GMT
i also suffred from anxiety and deep depression problems!!! fortunately i don't have anxiety problems anymore and depression-it's quite gone also!!!! i try to be positive!!but i still wepp very often and very much without any reason!!!just starting to cry!!!
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Post by ellen on Feb 7, 2007 18:30:51 GMT
Every case is different so it's hard to tell in which way a therapist will help you Kelsy. But wether you decide to get professional help or not, like sammie said, make sure it's someone specialized. I've been clinically depressed but managed to recover with the help of a very good neuropsychologist. As you can see, you're not alone
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Post by shaz on Feb 7, 2007 19:31:12 GMT
What a bunch we are! Ruthie; I'm on Prozac for my depression...have been for a year now, and it works wonders. Yeah I still get depressed, but not as often or for as long as I was.
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Post by cesca on Feb 7, 2007 19:33:30 GMT
I can relate to you in more ways than you know chicky. And I know how hard it must have been for you to type the words you just did. Hang in there, for you will find a time when you feel ready to get better. Talking things through does help, but it will never take the memories away. xxxxx Yeah, one thing I have discovered through it is that I'm not as alone as I thought. Not necessarily for the reasons that cause my problems, but more people suffer anxiety than I could ever have imagined. I just find myself feeling very alone and although that seems very selfish of me, I can't help it. Anyway, I just wanted to explain therapists and stuff to Kelsy really and that was the best example I could give I actually had a home visit from two shrinks yesterday to tell me they're giving me a new careworker to help me work through some stuff...not best impressed, but whatever Don't ever feel selfish for feeling alone!! Sometimes for whatever reason we all feel that way. Whether it's a little 'you' time that you need, or simply that you don't feel you can let anyone else into your world. If you are not impressed with what the shrinks have advised, tell them. They don't always know what is going on inside your head, and they can at times read you wrong, so you have to tell them - don't be afraid of saying 'actually that scares the cr*p out of me and I would rather not do that right now' You need to heal in your own time, without the pressures of what some people may think is best for you.
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Post by shaz on Feb 7, 2007 19:47:33 GMT
Yeah, I know that. I do feel a lot of pressure from my parents though, and I completely understand why they get angry with me sometimes...I mean, I'm unemployed, left school a year ago, and rarely go out...it frustrates them as well as me. I do tell therapists when I think they're wrong...well, on occasions anyway, heh.
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